The search for the real meanings of love | connections |

Simon Jenkins (
, 17 March) gets in a debate with Jeanette Winterson on love. The Guy lists the Greek words for really love but omits one –


– typically converted as charity, a debased phrase which now has an environment of condescension. Better possibly translated as grace or loving kindness, its that capacity to feel another’s discomfort or happiness, their dreams and anxieties. Becoming an excellent listener and to provide service, advice and often positive activities to greatly help in challenging circumstances. Above all being sensitive to the emotions of some other individual.

Jenkins dismisses the passing from 1 Corinthians 13 as pulpit platitude, but read in today’s translation it extends to the nub: “Love is actually diligent … type … doesn’t envy or boast. It’s not rude … self-seeking … conveniently angered.” Isn’t really that what Jenkins means by politeness? It is primarily the kind of love which brought visitors to found charities instance Oxfam and Save the kids, and also to created ladies’ refuges, usually from witnessing person demand and achieving the imagination and perseverance to accomplish some thing. Its something special, nevertheless tends to be developed and it is present in both women and men. Perhaps that type of really love “is all you need”.

Val Spouge

Braintree, Essex

The constraints of English shouldn’t slim all of our concept of want to mere personal devotion. Stanley Spencer blogged the musician has got to look at the world with a love that discloses things as charged with their own, interesting identity. This powerful truth is plainly realized by Winterson, though Jenkins misses it. Really love is not necessarily the same task as kindness, benevolence or complimentary, all of which are laudable but wthhold the home given that control, unmoved except by option. Real love is an open, susceptible perceptivity, risky and magical, the origin of all innovative pleasure. It is far from typically present in primary ministers.

Alison Prince

Whiting Bay, Isle of Arran

May I ask that we think about a complimentary rule for cellphones comprising two factors of great rehearse? 1st, all phone talks tend to be pitched at a consistent level that merely some body standing alongside it is possible to hear. Second, “people basic” indicates a face-to-face conversation takes precedence around incoming call. You can ring back.

Grace Fox

Leicester Forest East, Leicestershire